This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.

Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.

The more bait you leave, the more likely men will message you without skipping to the next profile. If you want to stand out from the crowd, reveal your personality in a unique way.

All these openers have gotten responses for me personally and for many of my clients. If anybody has other openers that work well for them online, post them in the comments.

There are openers for a variety of different situations and types of girls.

It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.

This discussion is primarily for sites such as where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to).